Hey Gorgeous!

Hey Gorgeous,

I know that the holidays can stir up a whirlwind of emotions. For many, they’re a time of joy and togetherness, but for those of us carrying the pain of pregnancy loss, the holidays can also be a stark reminder of what we’ve lost. If the past few weeks felt heavy, I want you to know you’re not alone.

As we step into this new year, let’s take a moment to honor the babies we’ve carried in our wombs and hearts, and create space to remember them in ways that feel sacred and nurturing. Whether the holidays brought moments of reflection or feelings of longing, now is the perfect time to lean into love and healing as we carry their memory forward.

Creating rituals or memorials isn’t just about remembering our babies; it’s about giving ourselves permission to grieve, to honor, and to begin again with intention and grace. Let’s explore some ways to do just that.

1. Name Your Baby

Sis, the start of a new year is a chance to examine previous ways of existing as you look to embrace fresh ways of healing. Sometimes early-term loss babies were never named because it was so soon. If you haven’t already, consider naming your baby. Whether it’s a name you had in mind or something that comes to you now, this simple act can feel like claiming the space they hold in your heart.

Speak their name during your prayers, whisper it in moments of quiet reflection, or write it in a journal. Their name is a testament to their existence and the love you’ll always carry.

2. Create a Sacred Space

As we reset after the busyness of the holidays, now might be the perfect time to create a quiet, sacred space in your home. This could be a small altar with candles, photos, or keepsakes that remind you of your baby.

This space can serve as your sanctuary—a place to grieve, to connect, and to heal. When life feels overwhelming, it’s a reminder that their memory is always close.

I would also like to encourage you to reflect on the following prompts to gain clarity about what to release as we enter the new year. Whether you journal or meditate, the choice is yours:

What created energy in my life this year?

What drained energy from my life this year (hint: the answer isn’t your loss; this is anything outside of it that might have also exacerbated the trauma brought on by your loss)?

How can I take steps to release the energy draining activities, people, places in order to co-create a more harmonious future existence?

3. Light a Candle

The holidays often come with twinkling lights and candles glowing in every window, but now you can create a light that’s just for your baby. Lighting a candle in their honor is a simple yet powerful way to hold space for them.

Choose a time that feels right—perhaps on special dates or quiet evenings when you need a moment to reflect—and let the light remind you of their presence.

4. Write a Letter

Writing a letter to your baby is a gentle way to release unspoken emotions, feelings or memories, and give them a voice.

Tell your babies about your dreams for them, how much they’re loved, and what their memory means to you. You can keep the letter, read it aloud, or release it as a symbolic act—whatever feels right to your spirit, do that.

5. Plant Something in Their Honor

A new year is a perfect time to plant something in their memory—a tree, a flower, or even a garden. Watching it grow can be a healing reminder of the love and connection you share.

Choose something that blooms in a season that feels meaningful to you or a plant that represents renewal and hope.

6. Create or Wear a Keepsake

After the gift-giving season, consider giving yourself a gift of remembrance. Whether it’s a piece of jewelry, a piece of art, or something personal, a keepsake can be a beautiful way to carry their memory with you into the new year.

Each time you see or wear it, let it be a reminder of the bond you’ll always share.

7. Host a Ceremony or Gathering

Coming off the gatherings of the holidays, you might find healing in creating a more intimate moment of remembrance. Host a small ceremony with family or close friends—or keep it just for yourself.

Light candles, read poems, or simply sit in silence. It’s not about what you do but about creating a moment to honor your baby and the journey you’re on.

8. Mark Special Dates

If the holidays brought up specific memories or dates, you can choose to honor those days in your own way. This might be journaling, lighting a candle, or planning a quiet moment of reflection.

Grief doesn’t follow a calendar, Love, so however these days show up for you, be gentle with yourself and honor your feelings.

9. Join a Community of Remembering

The holidays can sometimes leave us feeling isolated, but you’re not alone in this journey. There are so many women walking this path alongside you.

Whether it’s a support group, a remembrance event, or an online community, connecting with others can remind you that your baby’s memory lives on—not just in your heart but in the hearts of those who understand your journey.

10. Trust Your Spirit

As you move into this new season, remember that your connection to your baby is eternal. They live within you, in your heart and your spirit. Trust yourself to honor them in ways that feel meaningful and healing.

There’s no perfect way to do this, Sis—only the way that’s right for you. Your love for them is what matters most, and that love will always guide you.

This time of year is all about renewal and reflection. Honoring your baby doesn’t mean staying stuck in the pain; it means carrying their memory forward with love and grace. Whatever rituals or practices you choose, know that you’re walking this journey with strength, and you are not alone.

Until next time… be well, Love